Hello again! Feels like ages since I last posted, even though it was only on Sunday. I’ve got some lemon sorbet in front of me, my hair up, phone charging and revision to do, but instead I’m writing a blog post. Right now it’s half five and this is going live in half an hour. Better get down to it!
There’s a lot of pressure to be successful, or to do well at something these days. That’s the world we live in. But there’s really nothing you can do but be the best you can be. There’s every chance you’ll have to hang on until you leave school before you find something you’re good at. It’s disheartening when you feel like nothing is your strong suit, but I have a belief that everyone is good at something. People often find, I think, that they may be good at something but they don’t particularly like it. My science teacher was adamant that I was good at science, which was fine, but I was never that interested.
I’m lucky. I’ve always known what I wanted to do, what I loved to do, and kind of where my life was headed. That direction has always been a comfort. I’ve been writing stories since before I could even understand what a career was. I don’t care how long it will take me, I’m determined to follow that goal through.
But I know a lot of people struggle with finding a path. One of my friends has a lot of interests, but she doesn’t feel like any of them naturally lead into careers – which is fair enough, but it’s not exactly helpful. She still doesn’t know what it is she’s going to be doing, and that’s fine.
The only thing you can do in the situation where you feel like you don’t have a particular passion, or a particular direction, or a particular strength, is to try different things. If you don’t want to take the huge leap of going to university and getting into debt for something you aren’t sure you’ll enjoy, don’t leap into it. That’s what the gap year exists for.
An important thing to bear in mind is to put aside your fears. This is something I think a lot of people struggle with when they’re setting out to find something they like; they get stuck in a rut of only doing what they’re comfortable with – and that’s entirely natural – but there’s so much truth behind the idea that you’ll regret what you don’t do, rather than what you do do. I believe in trying any opportunities that come your way. Unless you can come up with a 100% justifiable, truthful reason for not doing something, not just an excuse, then do it. It pays off.
Sometimes you’ll find good things in the most unlikely of places. Sometimes you’ll find rewards from things you never thought you’d succeed at.
But the most important thing to remember in these situations is that you can only do your best you. You can’t pretend to be something you’re not, and you shouldn’t have to. If your only goal is to enjoy yourself, find the way you can do that best. If your happiness doesn’t come from a career, good for you. If your happiness does come from a career, good for you too. If your happiness comes from creativity and making content, good for you. But don’t try to spend your life doing something you think should be making you happy, or should be satisfying, instead take the time and make the effort to discover what it is that helps you be the best version of you.
Side note though – can anyone tell me what Quora is? I’ve just signed up to it but I have NO CLUE what it is. SO CONFUSED!