What would you attempt if you knew you would not fail?
If I knew I would not fail, I’d be more adventurous. Largely, I try to act as if failure is irrelevant, because when you do fail, the best thing to do is to build from that point. It doesn’t mean that you have to stop in your attempts.
Despite this, there’s always that lingering feeling, that inevitable fear of failure. So if I knew that wouldn’t be there, if I knew without a doubt that whatever I did I would succeed at… the first thing that jumps to mind for me is to be more daring. I’d probably try a lot of things on my own, like travelling.
But I think I’d do some of the things I’ve always imagined doing but never thought could be possible, like making a film. Writing & directing a theatre play. Play piano in front of an audience.
It’s hard to think what else I would do. I mean, without failure, the world is your oyster. But I don’t think I’d take the option if it was there. I think it would be cheating. If you take away failure, you take away half of the drive, and most of the satisfaction.
If you never failed along the way to success, then when you got what you wanted in the first place, it wouldn’t seem as big of a deal. I think part of what makes success so pleasing is that feeling of having overcome everything and feeling like you’ve beaten all those people who said you couldn’t do it, and all those doubts that crept unwanted through your thoughts.
A life where failure wasn’t an option would be easy, but easy soon becomes boring. And I am not one for the boring life.
Hello again! Feels like ages since I last posted, even though it was only on Sunday. I’ve got some lemon sorbet in front of me, my hair up, phone charging and revision to do, but instead I’m writing a blog post. Right now it’s half five and this is going live in half an hour. Better get down to it!
There’s a lot of pressure to be successful, or to do well at something these days. That’s the world we live in. But there’s really nothing you can do but be the best you can be. There’s every chance you’ll have to hang on until you leave school before you find something you’re good at. It’s disheartening when you feel like nothing is your strong suit, but I have a belief that everyone is good at something. People often find, I think, that they may be good at something but they don’t particularly like it. My science teacher was adamant that I was good at science, which was fine, but I was never that interested.
I’m lucky. I’ve always known what I wanted to do, what I loved to do, and kind of where my life was headed. That direction has always been a comfort. I’ve been writing stories since before I could even understand what a career was. I don’t care how long it will take me, I’m determined to follow that goal through.
But I know a lot of people struggle with finding a path. One of my friends has a lot of interests, but she doesn’t feel like any of them naturally lead into careers – which is fair enough, but it’s not exactly helpful. She still doesn’t know what it is she’s going to be doing, and that’s fine.
The only thing you can do in the situation where you feel like you don’t have a particular passion, or a particular direction, or a particular strength, is to try different things. If you don’t want to take the huge leap of going to university and getting into debt for something you aren’t sure you’ll enjoy, don’t leap into it. That’s what the gap year exists for.
An important thing to bear in mind is to put aside your fears. This is something I think a lot of people struggle with when they’re setting out to find something they like; they get stuck in a rut of only doing what they’re comfortable with – and that’s entirely natural – but there’s so much truth behind the idea that you’ll regret what you don’t do, rather than what you do do. I believe in trying any opportunities that come your way. Unless you can come up with a 100% justifiable, truthful reason for not doing something, not just an excuse, then do it. It pays off.
Sometimes you’ll find good things in the most unlikely of places. Sometimes you’ll find rewards from things you never thought you’d succeed at.
But the most important thing to remember in these situations is that you can only do your best you. You can’t pretend to be something you’re not, and you shouldn’t have to. If your only goal is to enjoy yourself, find the way you can do that best. If your happiness doesn’t come from a career, good for you. If your happiness does come from a career, good for you too. If your happiness comes from creativity and making content, good for you. But don’t try to spend your life doing something you think should be making you happy, or should be satisfying, instead take the time and make the effort to discover what it is that helps you be the best version of you.
Side note though – can anyone tell me what Quora is? I’ve just signed up to it but I have NO CLUE what it is. SO CONFUSED!
Sometimes, making dinner is fun and it’s nice to put some effort in, but often it’s just a chore that needs doing. When it comes to exam time, or a particularly busy period, or just a long day, thinking about dinner is not what you want to do. But these three meals are all perfect for a lazy night, and completely adaptable. They’re literally only a couple of steps each, and all done in under half an hour. (Perfect for the student life.)
Pasta and Greens
Everyone knows how to cook macaroni, right? This recipe has very few ingredients:
Macaroni (or any other pasta, let’s be real)
Collard greens (otherwise known as spring or winter greens), just to add some veg
Butter or garlic & oil to cook the greens with
Philadelphia/other cream cheese
Step one: put the macaroni on to cook. Step two: cook the greens in a pan. Step three: when all is cooked, stir in the philadelphia and pasta with the greens until the cheese is melted. Et voilà! You can switch it up and use different flavoured cheeses too, as there’s that whole Philadelphia range now. My personal favourites are the original, the sweet chilli, and the garlic/herb.
This meal is just super easy for those brain-dead nights, which is why it’s one of my favourites. We always have greens, pasta, and Philadelphia in the fridge, so it’s perfect.
If you’re like me and don’t eat meat, but you really fancy something that isn’t a plain old Margherita and really don’t want to make one from scratch, here’s the cheat’s way out – because it can be quite hard to find something in a supermarket sometimes, and this is much cheaper than getting a takeaway.
Buy a basic pizza, take it home, and before you put it in the oven, spruce it up a bit with whatever you have in the salad drawer or in the cupboard. I personally like to add some spinach (who needs a knife, just rip that stuff up and sprinkle it on), maybe some tuna, you could even put an egg in the middle if you want, to make it all Florentine. Do whatever. Go freestyle. Have fun. And done.
I love these. All you need are:
Some standard wraps
A pack of halloumi cheese
Salad cream or houmous (or whatever condiment you like)
A griddle/grill pan
Just shove the sliced halloumi in an oiled griddle until it’s browned (this will likely get very smoky, you might want to open a window), then assemble your wrap!
This is extremely versatile; I often use bistro salad, houmous, spring onion, sometimes normal onion or whatever to put in my wrap alongside the halloumi, but you can honestly use anything in the salad drawer. Anything at all. Peppers. Cucumber. Spinach. Beetroot. Anything will do with halloumi, just try it! It will probably take you about five minutes to cook the halloumi and, what, two minutes to assemble the wrap? That’s definitely what I call an easy dinner.